YOUR MARITAL HEALTH/GETTING FIXED UP SEXUALLY: THE LOVE LIBRARY TECHNIQUE
Go to a well-stocked bookstore and select two hardcover books. Pure fiction only. No “how to do its.” Buy two different color markers and underline interesting parts of the first of the books you read. If you don’t have time to read, you are too stressed and must make more time before you make more love. Make time to talk about the books and the sections that are underlined. Notice your partner’s underlines when you exchange books. Wonder why he or she underlined a given section, how he or she might have felt when reading that particular part.
One husband said, “I noticed at every hotel we stayed at that the women would be reading books more than the men. Just taking time to read nonfiction was a major step, but to read my novel and hers and discuss the same books was a first for us. I got so I felt I was reading along with her when I read the book she underlined.”
“I found it that way, too,” responded his wife. “The worst part was finding time to read. We had to struggle with that, but as you said, that was part of the sig, to use the reading requirements as a test of whether we would make the time for each other.”
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