All relationships end. It is just a matter of how and when. Those “really hot” relationships, the ones that seem very early to be the real thing, are the most likely to have high dumping potential. Getting dumped is one of the most painful of human experiences. Avoid it at all costs.

You avoid getting dumped by not getting too involved, and always watching for the slightest sign of preparatory dumping. When you see it coming, dump first and fast. It is also wise to tell the dumpees that they are being dumped for their own good. This is called the “therapeutic dump,” and is supposed to feel better than other forms of dump. Some of these are:

The Dirty Dump: You have found someone better, have known about it for some time, but have been staying with the dumpee as insurance against your own dumping. Once you are safe, dump.

The Dumb Dump: This occurs when someone gives you false information, probably in order to move in on your dumpee once you have done the dumping. You dump too soon, and you have been fooled into a dumb dump.

The Dangling Dump: This is a highly skilled dumping involving a built-in safety factor. You provide some hope, usually false, that you will take the person back following the dumping. This is done in case your new partner dumps you or your old partner starts to look much better compared to the new one.

The Delayed Dump: This is done when you know far ahead of time that you are going to dump someone, but delay the actual dumping until after a scheduled family event, dance, or other occasion at which people might ask, “Whatever happened to . . . ?” Dumping is easier than explaining.

The Devious Dump: This is done when you know you are going to dump someone right from the start of the relationship, but are too lazy to look for a better match right now. You pre-plan the dump for a personally convenient time, maybe when your work schedule is easier and you have time to deal with the dumping hassle.

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The most common form of scoliosis is known as idiopathic which really means “of unknown cause”. The common form of scoliosis usually affects the upper part of the spine in the thorax or chest.

It is more common in girls and usually makes its appearance in the 10 to 12 years age group.

Once it develops it may rapidly progress and lead to a severe deformity so that the girl is dwarfed and hunchbacked.

However, it can vary from mild to severe, but, because of the rapid progress, it warrants early diagnosis and energetic treatment.

Regular and frequent examination is necessary. This will include X-rays to determine the degree of curvature and how fast it is progressing. Once spinal growth is complete then the condition is stabilised and will not change.

This deformity may not be obvious when first looking at the child, but may become obvious if she is asked to bend forward to touch her toes.

The S curve of the spine and the hump on one side of the back or the chest will then show up.

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This rash develops around the mouth and may be flat and red or raised with small pimples and leave a clear zone immediately around the mouth.

As soon as the cortisone treatment is reduced or stopped, the rash flares again and is difficult to treat. It appears to be more common in young women, but why is unknown. It responds to the use of small doses of the antibiotic tetracycline given over a long period.

This same treatment has long been used to treat acne. It now appears that the old-fashioned hydrocortisone, which is usually less effective than the newer, more potent, cortisone derivatives, is better to use on the face than potent ones.

However, use all medicines only as prescribed, by the person for whom they were prescribed, and only for the original condition. This may take all the fun out of being your own doctor, but is safer.

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Recent research on the dental health of children in the northern suburbs of Sydney revealed a great reduction in dental decay, or caries.

In 1960, a study showed more than 90 per cent of TSluldren had active dental decay, yet the recent survey showed less than 25 per cent in the same community were now affected.

The researchers attribute this to the better nutrition of the children and the widespread use of, initially, fluoride tablets and then fluoride in the water supply.

The World Health Organisation has stated that fluoride is a naturally occurring substance in many water supplies, and, provided the content of artificially-placed fluoride is carefully monitored, the advantages appear to be overwhelming.

Despite this evidence, the anti-fluoride lobby continues to decry the process and, recently, the propaganda has been that fluoride can cause cancer.

There is no valid scientific evidence to support such a connection, but when the charges are repeated often enough it can worry the layman.

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If there are secondary growths in the liver, they will gradually replace it. Until over ninety per cent of the liver is destroyed, it is still possible for the remaining cells to do its normal job. The liver’s job is complicated but basically consists of purifying the blood by clearing out various waste products, drugs, etc. The liver also makes some substances which help the blood to clot normally. If less than ten per cent of the liver is functioning, the patient gets yellow jaundice—the eyes and skin look yellow because bile-like substances are not being cleared properly from the blood. (Yellow jaundice also develops when there is a blockage ol the bile system, for example, with gall stones—it does not necessarily mean a disease of the liver itself.) Because the blood does not clot as well as normal, a patient with a failing liver bruises and bleeds easily. Fluid tends to accumulate in the body, especially in the abdominal cavity. Often there is no pain because pain only occurs if the cancer deposits break through or stretch I he sensitive outer lining of the liver. As the liver enlarges it tends to press on the stomach, causing loss of appetite and sometimes nausea. There are drugs which can help this. Gradually impurities build up so much in the blood, that the patient becomes tired and drowsy and eventually loses consciousness altogether and dies.

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Few treatments are as effective as oestrogen, but if oestrogen is not for you, then what else can you do? Firstly, try not to let your doctor prescribe tranquillisers, sedatives or anti-depressants; they don’t relieve die hot flushes and night sweats, and they may make you feel much worse.

Controlling or preventing hot flushes is not easy, but some things make them worse, so:

• try to cut down on smoking, coffee and alcohol

• avoid hot spicy foods

• try to avoid stress

• ask your doctor if any tablets you are taking could be making the flushes worse

• wear cool, loose clothing made of natural fibres, especially in hot weather

• have a tepid shower whenever possible

• if you decide to stop HRT, do it as slowly as possible, and not during hot weather or times of stress

‘I stopped taking HRT to see if my ovaries would start working again without it, but they didn’t, and the hot flushes came back. So I went back on the HRT and feel much better now. I am 52.’

‘I bought some special “calcium tablets for women” from the health food shop for my flushes, but they didn’t help at all.’

The first of the two women quoted above doesn’t understand that once ovaries have stopped ‘working’ after the menopause, they won’t start up again. And the second has been misinformed about calcium tablets; they will help your bones, but not hot flushes.

Herbal remedies can sometimes help hot flushes; instead of just buying something over the counter at the chemist or health food shop, you might get a remedy that is more appropriate for you if you visit a medical herbalist or an aromatherapist. A homoeopath may also prescribe a suitable remedy. Bear in mind, though, that these remedies are not oestrogen, so will not prevent osteoporosis; however, many women And that alternative medicines can help other aspects of coping with the menopause.

Unlike vaginal and bladder problems, and osteoporosis, hot flushes will eventually pass for almost all women. They can be embarrassing and uncomfortable, and they may make you want to disappear into a hole in the ground, but they don’t last forever. If you are lucky, they will be over in about two years or even less, and if these are your only symptoms you may well feel that HRT is not necessary for you; if you are one of the unlucky ones, the hot flushes may still be with you in 20 years, and HRT may be the only effective solution.

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Smoking endangers heart health, as well as having a detrimental effect on our bones. If you are a twenty-cigarette-a-day smoker, you will suffer more from atherosclerosis (narrowing and plugging of arteries) than comparable non-smokers. You also have double or triple die risk of sustaining a crippling or fatal heart attack than someone of the same age, family history and activity level who does not smoke. Giving up smoking effects a rapid improvement in the health of the heart. Twelve months after quitting your risk of sudden death from heart attack is almost half that of persistent smokers and, after five years, this risk is almost identical to that of non-smokers.

Dangerous blood clots (thrombosis), which may lodge in any part of the body, can occur after surgery. Risk factors for thrombosis include being overweight and heavy smoking. If a hysterectomy, myomectomy, or endometrial resection is not urgent, it should be deferred in women who are overweight and who smoke until they have taken off excess kilos and quit smoking.

Surgeons can also help prevent thrombosis during major surgery, such as hysterectomy, by artificially stimulating the calf muscles to contract during the operation. This does no harm. Another technique is to inject an anticoagulant, such as heparin, to reduce the clotting activity of the blood. This has the disadvantage of increasing the amount of bleeding that occurs during surgery, but is generally considered preferable to the formation of a blood clot.

Women having any form of surgery should be able to recognise the early signs of thrombosis in the legs or a blood clot (embolus) in the lungs. The middle of the calf may become tender at rest or sore when moved, or the ankle may swell. An embolus in the lung may cause pain on breathing, a dry cough, shortness of breath, and soreness or pain in the chest If any of these symptoms occur, it is important to tell your doctor or nurse promptly. An early diagnosis nearly always averts further problems.

Paradoxically, there is some evidence to suggest that women who smoke are less likely to have a hysterectomy. The reasons for this are unclear but it may be related to the suppression of oestrogen by some of the toxic components of cigarette smoke. It is presumed that smoking keeps the oestrogen required for fibroid growth under control.

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What is hypnosis? The story of hypnosis started a few hundred years ago. The first record of the use of hypnosis on patients has to be that of Dr Franz Mesmer. He graduated from medical school with honours in 1765. He practiced first in Vienna and later in Paris. Pierre Janet, in his book Psychological Healing, gave the following description of Mesmer’s method of practice. Mesmer used an elaborate apparatus. In the centre of a hall, which was filled with the sound of ceremonial music, he placed a large oak tub, Mesmers famous ‘baquet’. This was filled with water, iron filings, and powdered glass. It had a lid pierced with holes and coming up through the holes were iron rods. The patients, who were completely silent and expected something to happen, would join hands and apply the iron rods to those parts of their bodies afflicted with the ailment. Mesmer, the great magnetizer, in a silken robe of lilac colour, would then appear with a long iron wand in his hand. He would pass slowly in front of his patients, fixing his eyes on them and passing his hands on their bodies or touching them with his magnetic wand. These patients, because of his great name, were expecting something to happen. Some did not feel anything, but some felt uneasy, some went into a trance, and some, especially young women, fell down on the ground and went into convulsion. This was supposed to be therapeutic, and after a few of these ceremonies, and payment of enormous fees, many patients declared that they had been cured of many of their ailments.

Magnets were supposed to be full of supernatural power in those days, and the ceremony provided the suitable environment for most of these patients to go into a trance state. Mesmer knew nothing about hypnosis, nor did he know why some of his patients got better. It was later discovered that patients with hysterical or psychosomatic symptoms would improve if they went through cathartic experiences or acted out some of their buried, unconscious, primitive wishes. We now describe a person in a trance as a person being mesmerized, and mesmerism is somehow equated to hypnotism.

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Pain may arise from injury to our body cells. This is known as organic pain. More accurately it arises from the stimulation of nerve fibres as a result of injury to the body tissues. However, some organs of the body, such as the brain itself, are not supplied with pain nerves, and these organs can be cut or otherwise injured without causing any pain at all. In other instances. due to the complicated anatomical arrangement of the nervous system, the pain is not felt in the diseased part but is felt is some other area.

On the other hand, pain may arise in any part of the body as a result of the operation of psychological mechanisms within the mind, and in the complete absence of any physical disease or injury, This is known as functional pain.

It is important that we do not consider a person suffering from functional pain as imagining that he suffers pain. This is not so. He does suffer pain. Furthermore, functional pain may be very severe, and there is nothing in the quality of functional pain which automatically distinguishes it from organically determined pain. Although we can often tell one kind of pain from the other by the way in which it comes about or by the patient’s reaction to it, we cannot always distinguish the two by the actual nature or severity of the pain.

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Q. What causes these erosions to take place in a healthy person?

A. The basic cause is too much acid and pepsin in the gastric fluid. At all times, a continual battle is going on in the stomach. On one hand, glands in the walls are actively producing acid, which in turn allows production of pepsin, and these two liquids commence digestion of the food. This means it is broken down into its basic component parts which will allow it to be absorbed by the blood stream further down in the intestinal canal. On the other hand, the mucosal lining has to resist the action of these chemicals on itself, for it is also subject to being digested — a case of the body actually devouring itself! Normally, the two remain in a fairly stable equilibrium, and no harm occurs; food is broken down, and the stomach wall remains intact.

Q. Do ulcer patients produce too much acid and pepsin?

A. In most cases, probably all, the answer must be ‘Yes’. Often this is not so with stomach ulcers, but it has been found that in many cases of duodenal ulcer, acid production is three times that of normal. Imagine that hot burning acid being present in three times the normal volume. We have already pointed out the extremely strong burning nature of hydrochloric acid — as every plumber who solders knows — and this may act for hours on the lining of the intestine. No wonder that little craters and holes develop.

In a particular disorder called the Zollinger-Ellison syndrome, acid production is stimulated to incredibly high levels and as much as eight times normal acid production occurs. Little wonder these patients suffer from serious ulcers.

Q. If there is no acid present, does that mean no ulcers?

A. The reverse holds true. Excess acid and there is a high risk of ulcers. No acid, so called achlorhydria, and there is no chance of an ulcer developing.

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